Hi there,
If you’ve lost someone you love, I’m so sorry. If reading this feels like too much today, you can skip it—truly.
Valentine’s Day can be a tough one after loss. The hearts, the couple posts, the "my person" energy everywhere—it can make grief feel extra lonely.
A gentle reminder: love doesn’t end when someone dies. And grief doesn’t follow a timeline. Some years feel manageable. Other years—sometimes years later—it hits hard again. That doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means they mattered.
If you’re missing someone, you don’t have to "do" this holiday. If it helps, choose one small, kind thing:
Keep plans simple (or skip them entirely)
Create a tiny ritual—light a candle, play a song, write a few lines to them
Text one safe person: "Today is hard. No need to fix it—just checking in."
If you’re supporting someone who’s grieving, a simple message is often enough:
"I’m thinking of you today.”
"No need to reply—I just wanted you to know you’re not alone."
One practical note, too: if you’re navigating probate or paperwork on top of grief, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to ask for things in writing, to pause, and to take this one step at a time.
If you need clarity on where things stand in your probate matter—or you want help sorting what’s urgent vs. what can wait—reply to this email and we’ll help.
With care,
Travis Gasper
Gasper Law
www.gasperplan.com